A Post of Gratitude


I am really thankful to all my loving blogger friends who commented on my post “My Life as of Today.” It was very heartwarming to receive 31 comments of prayers, concerns, and advices. I may have not posted so much nor grab some opps but I was resting my mind and my body. I was reading all of your comments over and over again just to come up with a decision that I might not regret later. Aside from that, I was also pondering all the thoughts inside my mind, my heart and my beliefs. I needed to decide and I needed to be careful.By God’s grace, my heart and my mind came up with a decision. Yes! I am still leaving Bacolod on June 3, 2008. We have our tickets now and it’s no turning back. I am leaving not to be separated with my husband in a marital way but just to take time to rest from all the pains and time for my hubby to recuperate from his weaknesses. I don’t deny the fact that sometimes I may be stupid for always giving him a chance but I still do love him. I love my kids and I love my husband. But, I think I also needed to love myself. I hoped that in this way, God will intervene with our lives individually and enlighten our minds with life and what love really is.

This decision may be hard for us but the “space” might help us stand once more and face more challenges in our marriage life, not only that, but being with my parents will also help us in our finances.

To all who commented and prayed for my strength, I thank you. This entry is a post of gratitude to all that showed great concern in my darkest hour. May God bless you with the desires of your heart in His own perfect time! Showers of blessings are upon you.

I will be leaving soon. I will be spending more time in packing up necessary things. I may be online but not that often. So again…please bear with mama bear…I will be hopping and dropping soon when I get online at Cagayan. Again…thank you and God bless!!

Lifestyle Mommy Blogger and Virtual Assistant from Cagayan de Oro City, Philippines. Aside from doing product reviews and events coverage, she blogs about solo parenting, homeschooling, and things in between.


  • Lalaine

    yeah..I think you made the right decision Rubs…you need to rest too physically and emotionally…and the best place for that will be in your mother’s arms. By the way, while I was praying four you last nyt, I was reminded of a verse …Matt 11:28-30

    28″Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

    God bless!

  • twinks

    Hi Ruby,
    Take care. Always remember that a lot of people care for you and are praying for you and your kids. Don’t say that you’re stupid for always giving him a chance coz you’re not – you’re just a wife and a mother who’s love is real and sincere. Your hubby is the stupid one for taking you and the kids forgranted. I honestly believe that you leaving will do good for your relationship. Giving space will give you time to think. Its better that you fix the problem whilst its still small – than make it bigger and you ended up losing your love and respect to your hubby. Your kids deserve a peaceful environment. My prayers are always with you. Be strong sis. mwahugs! God Bless.

  • Z'riz

    hi mommy ruby! I think ur decision is a good one…it’s pretty tough what you’re going through and sometimes being apart from the reason/source of the problem can both heal wounds and guide your decision.

    that goes both ways too…hopefully your hubby will realize how much you mean to him and realize what a wonderful family he already has…. 🙂

    God bless mommy ruby..and good luck…


    Hello Mommy Ruby. I hope all is well with you. May you find serenity in your heart and mind. I believe you made the right decision.

    All the best to you.

  • Pinay WAHM

    Hey Mommy Ruby…

    Just doing some random hopping. I still have not sent you that message I promised. Now EC site is down so matatagalan na. By the time I send it you may not have the internet connection anymore as you’d probably be back home to your parents already.

    Do take care and you deserve the break. I’ll be around when you get back online.

    All the best,

    Mommy J

  • faeryrowan

    Even though a mother and wife’s love is overflowing, unconditional and eternal, we’re only human. You’ve already been “super” enough to continue to love despite all the heartaches and pains. You deserve the space. I’m sure you’ll rise from these ashes victorious and even more stronger than you already are. I’m praying for you, your husband, and your children, Mommy Ruby. Stay strong. =)

  • Wendy Lopez-Redaon

    that sounds like a good descision mommy ruby =)

    I too think the “space” will help. I know you love your husband very much lets continue to pray for him to change. ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE!! Continue to hold on to the Lord for HE IS YOUR VERY PRESENT HELP IN TIMES OF NEED!! =)I am confident that He will see you through no matter what. Have a safe trip and keep in touch *hugs*

  • Pinay Jade

    Take time for yourself, you really deserve it.
    Stay strong and I hope it all works out for the best.

    See you when you get back online.
    We love you!

  • betchay

    I don’t know you personally but I think you’re very brave and unselfish. I’ve known people who were in the same situation as you. I wish you well.

  • Naomi

    hello mommy ruby…hope you will find peace on your trip and stay at CDO…hope we could meet..hehe.. I will be there kasi by thursday.

    anyway, you deserve someone better. God bless!

  • Tony

    Best of luck to you. I know it is a hard decision. God bless you and the kids, and hopefully he will touch on your husband that his ways are not what is best for you, his children, or even himself.

  • Erwin Ilao

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  • Mummy Sheng

    wishing you all the luck on your trip! may it bring you peace of mind, to be able to think things clearly. don’t you ever think that you are stupid. you’re a mother and a wife, thinking of nothing but the welfare of the family you have created with your hubby (who doesn’t even act like one).

    don’t ever blame yourself either.

    my prayers goes out to you and your kids!

    take care and god bless!

  • Pinay WAHM

    Hi Mommy Ruby…

    Hopping here just to see what’s up. I guess you’re busy packing and getting ready for your trip.

    Have a safe one and try to update us when you can.

    Take care.

    Mommy J

  • blessedmom

    hi mommy ruby! hope ur doin ok now. i read about ur post and i could feel ur frustration and pain. pray,pray, pray. i’ll always keep u in my prayers too. be strong. keep the faith. ur a good woman, a great mother. our friends, family, people around us may fail us. but God never fails. He will always be there for us.

    Take care mommy ruby! 🙂

  • PerpetuaL bLiss

    i know it really hurts to turn your back from someone you really love. i have been a martyr also to my ex-boyfriend. everybody saw my misfortunes when i was still with him. i even thought i could not let him go because the feeling of love was so intense. but as time passed by, i got tired – just like what you are feeling right now. you deserve it mommy. you need to rest and spare some time for yourself. don’t give in too much. reserve some part for your children and yourself as well. we’ll just help you pray that your husband will realize the great loss he have right now without you and his kids by his side. i love your story. very inspiring for those who are in doubt of leaving their husbands behind despite of all the pain and sacrifices.

    more power to you mommy ruby! may God hear your prayers 🙂

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